Women and the Purity of Love

Er Ahmad Junaid

Aurat insaaniyat ki buniyadi zarurat hai. Har daur mein aurat ka kirdar samajh, ghar aur zindagi mein bepanah ahmiyat rakhta hai. Allah Ta’ala ne usay ek azeem martaba ata farmaya hai, jahan woh maa ke roop mein rehmat, beti ke roop mein barkat, behan ke roop mein mohabbat aur biwi ke roop mein sukoon ban kar samne aati hai. Aurat aur mohabbat ka ta’alluq insaan ki fitrat se juda hai. Aurat ke jazbaat mein ek aisi pakizgi hoti hai jo insaniyat ko behtareen taur par samajhne aur nibhaane ki qudrati salahiyat rakhti hai. Mohabbat apne asal mein ek paak aur saaf jazba hai jo jab aurat ke dil mein hota hai to uski rooh aur bhi roshan ho jaati hai.

Aurat ki mohabbat ki sabse badi misaal maa ke roop mein samne aati hai. Maa apne bacchon ke liye jis qism ki muhabbat karti hai uski misaal dunya ki kisi aur mohabbat se nahi di ja sakti. Maa ki muhabbat mein na koi matlab hota hai na hi koi shart. Woh apni aulad ke liye apni zindagi tak qurban kar deti hai. Is mohabbat ki pakizgi is baat se samajh aati hai ke maa ka jazba insaan ko duniya ki sabse badi ne’mat aur sabse gehri muhabbat ka ehsaas dilata hai. Isi liye Qur’an mein aur Hadees mein maa ke maqam ko behtareen taur par bayan kiya gaya hai. Nabi Kareem ﷺ ne bhi farmaya ke jannat maaon ke qadam ke neeche hai, aur yeh baat is taraf ishara karti hai ke aurat ki mohabbat ki paakizgi insaaniyat ke liye rehmat hai.

Jab aurat biwi ke roop mein mohabbat karti hai to woh bhi ek paak aur imandari se bhari mohabbat hoti hai. Ek sacha rishta sirf tabhi mazboot banta hai jab usmein aurat apne dil ki saari paak khwahishat ko shaamil karti hai. Biwi apne shauhar ke liye sirf zindagi ka saathi nahi balki uska sukoon aur chain ban jaati hai. Qur’an mein yeh bhi farmaya gaya hai ke “Aur tumhari biwiyan tumhare liye libaas hain aur tum unke liye libaas ho.” Is ayat se pata chalta hai ke aurat ki mohabbat sirf zahiri izhar tak mehdood nahi hoti balki woh insaan ko har dukh-sukh mein libaas ki tarah dhakne, samajhne aur sukoon dene wali hoti hai.

Aurat aur mohabbat ka ta’alluq sirf ghar tak mehdood nahi rehta. Behan aur beti ke roop mein bhi aurat apne ghar ke liye ek paak jazba le kar aati hai. Behan ki mohabbat mein ek bepanah khuloos hota hai jo hamesha bhai ke liye dua aur mohabbat ka paigham le kar aata hai. Beti ghar ki roshni aur rehmat hoti hai. Nabi Kareem ﷺ ne betiyon ko rehmat qarar diya hai aur farmaya jo apni betiyon ki parwarish achhe taur par karta hai uske liye jannat ki basharat hai. Yeh baat bhi is cheez ki gawahi hai ke aurat ki mohabbat apni asal mein paak, sacchi aur insaaniyat ke liye bais-e-rehmat hai.

Mohabbat aur aurat ka ta’alluq ek doosre se itna gehra hai ke dono ek doosre ke bagair mukammal nahi hote. Aurat apne paak jazbaat se insaan ko sachai, wafadari aur khuloos ka paigham deti hai. Is mohabbat mein na riya hoti hai na hi khudgarzi. Agar insaan is mohabbat ko samajh le to uski zindagi ka har pehlu behtareen ban jaata hai. Aaj ke daur mein jab mohabbat ko aksar ghalat samjha jaata hai, aurat ke paak jazbaat ki izzat karna aur usay samajhna zaroori hai.

Pak mohabbat woh hai jo sirf Allah ki raza ke liye ho. Aurat jab apne shauhar ya ghar walon se mohabbat karti hai to uske dil mein yeh bhi hota hai ke Allah ki raza hasil ho. Isi liye aurat ki mohabbat sirf insaan ke liye nahi balki ek ibadat ka rang le leti hai. Aur jab mohabbat ibadat ka hissa ban jaati hai to uski pakizgi aur bhi barh jaati hai. Mohabbat ke is paak jazba ko samajhna aur izzat dena insani society ke liye sabse zaroori hai.

Aurat ki mohabbat ki paakizgi ki sabse badi misaal Hazrat Khadija tul Kubra رضي الله عنها hain jo Nabi Kareem ﷺ ki pehli biwi thin. Unhone apni sari daulat, apni sari qudrat aur apna har jazba Nabi Kareem ﷺ ke liye qurban kar diya. Unki muhabbat mein koi matlab ya duniya ka faida nahi tha. Woh sirf Allah aur uske Rasool ﷺ ki raza ke liye apna sab kuch fida kar gayin. Aaj bhi unka naam mohabbat ki pakizgi aur wafadari ki misaal ban kar liya jaata hai.

Isi tarah Hazrat Fatima Zahra رضي الله عنها ki mohabbat bhi apne walid ke liye paak aur roshan misaal hai. Woh apne walid ki har takleef mein unke saath rehti thin, unki har fikr mein unke liye dua karti thin. Unki mohabbat sirf walid ki beti hone tak mehdood nahi thi balki unhone apni poori zindagi insaniyat ke liye qurbani aur mohabbat ka paigham bana di.

Aurat ke jazbaat mein ek aisi qudrati paakizgi hoti hai jo samaj ko zinda aur mohabbat se bhara rakhti hai. Agar aurat ki mohabbat ko samajh kar izzat di jaaye to har ghar mein sukoon, mohabbat aur barkat aa jaati hai. Mohabbat ki paakizgi sirf lafzon mein nahi hoti balki aurat ke har amal mein samne aati hai. Uski duaon mein, uski fikr mein, uske qurbani mein aur uske sabr mein mohabbat ki asli tasveer nazar aati hai.

Aaj ke daur mein zaroorat is baat ki hai ke aurat ke paak jazbaat ki izzat ki jaaye. Uski mohabbat ko sirf ek jazba ya waqt guzarne ka zariya na samjha jaaye. Balki us mohabbat ki paakizgi ko samajh kar usay insaniyat ke liye ek roshni ka zariya banaya jaaye. Aurat apne dil ki paak muhabbat se insaan ko Allah ki taraf bhi le ja sakti hai. Agar uski mohabbat imaan ke saath ho to woh sirf duniya hi nahi balki aakhirat ki bhi roshni ban jaati hai.

Is tarah samajh aata hai ke aurat aur mohabbat ek doosre ke bagair mukammal nahi. Aurat ki mohabbat insaaniyat ki asli pehchan hai aur uski paakizgi har zamane mein izzat aur qadr ki mustahiq hai. Aurat jab mohabbat karti hai to woh apne dil se karti hai aur us mohabbat ki rooh mein aisi quwwat hoti hai jo insaaniyat ko nayi roshni aur sukoon deti hai. Isi liye aurat ki mohabbat ek paak aur azeem ne’mat hai jo insaaniyat ke liye rehmat aur barkat ka paigham ban kar aati hai.